1 tiny tragic tryptych
2 snowball’s gonna do
3 Love, Loss, Longing
I had to try and stop it.
As Group Administrators, you had a responsibility to stop it.
You enabled a fully able man with dual income (and three working age sons) give away the few last possessions of a disabled pensioner, unable to work, with a life expecancy of more than thirty years less than average.
Actually it got worse than that, in the last year. Enduring what he put me through in the last year, I went from a lifelong history of low blood pressure, to not just high blood pressure, but severe idiopathic CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) with a LVEF of less than 23%.
Just being diagnosed with normal CHF gives you only a 50% chance of being alive in five years, 20% in ten years.
Harm Minimisation
The presumption of innocence is enshrined in judicial law.
Except in the practice of law peace officers act to protect the aggreived party, not the aggressor.
The system by default acts to protect without full knowledge of the veracity of facts, to protect people at risk of harm.
The default action of the Admins when told an illegal act is being carried out should be similar, to minimise harm.
Disabilities
I haven’t brought it up yet, but I am a person with a number of disabilities including ME, which is basically Long Covid+ for sixteen years, and have been seeking supported accommodation through NDIS.
The Blue/Green diagrams rate severity.
I have also been on the accelerated list for Housing for more than a year.
I thought my brother was allowing me to stay until those wheels of NDIS turned.
My brother wanted me out of his garage so he could go to Tasmania on Long Service Leave, without a little niggle in his mind.
So he leveraged his privilege, and used the law to ‘protect his family’ and his garage and had me thrown out, using the police with 15 minutes to collect my belongings.
The were no facts or proof involved, in fact the supplied document was full of incorrect and misleading statements. That is being rather generous, actually.
Except when I call the police about something like this, they look at that document. They become much less helpful.
When I apply for NDIS housing, went for an walk through, go to the interview and I mention this… Things change.
I have been trying to stick to vigorous honesty for quite a while now, which does make things difficult.
So I live in a homeless shelter.
Responsibility
Many other things are removed from the group for much more minor reasons. By letting this continue you become part of the illegal action.
Not Just like onlookers witnessing police brutality, but as Admins you are like Police Sergeants watching overzealous subordinates go too far and saying nothing. By saying nothing you are tacitly approving.
I have so little left. I’m living in a homeless shelter, and now I don’t even have the spare linen to change my sheets and pillow-cases.
Except I can’t change my own sheets, I need a support worker to do that for me.
Most pwME (people with ME) are more profoundly disabled than people with pwMS (we used to be called Atypical MS before 1960), but through the vagaries of NDIS most of us don’t get any funding, so we cant afford new accessible devices or specialised furniture.
Proof
I actually proof of ownership for much of it.
Except you should really have acted without proof, to protect person who stood to lose more.
“the test of a
Pearl S Buck (1892-1973) Pulitzer ’32, Nobel ’38civilizationGroup is the way that it cares for its helpless members.”
I have photos of much of it from a few months ago to many years ago, including me wearing the clothes from 2007 and before. I also have receipts for many items.
Emotional stress has just as big an effect on my body as physical exertion, to create neurotoxins that swirl around my bloodstream, and brain.
Looking at the PEM (Post Exertional Malaise) and Neurocognitive images above should give you an idea of my capability to provide them to you in a timely and coherent manner yesterday.
That is a few reasons why acting to protect should be at the top of your priorties before asking for proof.
The desk chair was specifically modified by me, for someone. A lot of the other ergonomic/monitor stands stuff were for other people, when I could access them again. Because we don’t get NDIS funding we go without or make-shift mods, and I was hoping to bridge the gap a little.
I’m also on the spectrum, and have many issues that things in that garage helped with, such as being too hot due to both ASD and M.E, which is why meeded just one of my portable air-cons some more of my lightweight, and yes, more expensive clothing.
Memories
It is mixed with guilt because I wasn’t home after being invited out by a woman to a dating event. My cat was very social, and I would normally lock her in at night, but she didn’t come back in time. She occasionally visited cat friendly neighbours across a street, and they saw her get hit and called me.
It was also, and this is going to sound even more ridiculous, but the ‘Hays’ mentioned in the “green me photo” was my girlfriend who died of cancer, and yes, she liked the shirt too.
The purple jacket was bought on my last international trip to Hong Kong in better, healthier days. Some of the watches are from that trip too.
Ah to have a disposable income, let alone a dual income like my brother. And now in the year all his boys have finished high school and are earning real money he has given away the few possessions I had left.
There were many happy memories from my marriage too, left among my belongings. I wasn’t too precious about the wedding album, but other things were more meaningful to me.
“I have my Books and Poetry to Protect Me”
Well, not any more.
They were always the world I escaped into when bullied by other children, when I got sick, now, the last 5% of my collection, gone.
Also there were my journals, and I am obviously the somewhat introspective type. I don’t revisit them all that often, but I valued them and their content.
Also some other treasured books including first editions, special orders, and my complete set of Griffin and Sabine.
There are six books in the complete series, as well as some other books by the same author.
Not so much novels as paper based multimedia experiences.
All in mint condition, with no missing inclusions.
C’est la vie.
Yes some things were to resell, and they and many others I don’t miss so much.
These are just some of the items and memories that are gone.
And most of my winter clothing.
1 tiny tragic tryptych
2 snowball’s gonna do
3 Love, Loss, Longing